As I am writing this, I’m not feeling my best self. Even though it is a sunny day today and there is no reason for me to feel stressed, still my eyes are burning and I feel like at any given moment I could burst into tears. This feeling has been nagging me for a few days now. I have had my fair share of rainy days and I know how to get myself out of it, but doing it yourself seems to cost an immense amount of effort.
You know it takes time to heal your body after an incident, the same goes for your mind. Sometimes you have simply used up all your reserves and it needs some time to gain strength again. It is a given fact to all of nature. Nothing blooms all year. So why do we expect it from ourselves? Why can’t we just take comfort in a few off-days? Why is it so hard for us to feel down when it is part of our natural state? Why can we not accept this feeling and take some rest?
Why is it so hard for us to love ourselves when we’re not at our best?
When you’re feeling down, your whole world seems to be divided in black and white. There is no grey area left and you tend to judge everything very harshly. All the little things that never bother you when you feel happy, are definitely bothering you now. And everything that is of a troublesome nature, costs you energy. And thus you slide deeper and deeper into this pit. Why does this happen? What has changed? Is it you, or is it everyone else? And why is it that when we feel blue, we lose all interest in things we know to be good for ourselves? All of the sudden you have lost your motivation to work out. All of the sudden you feel more keen on indulging in a hamburger than a salad. And all of the sudden you just want to lay on the couch and wait for the day to pass.
When experiencing this at a young stage in life, you would not know what to do in such a situation, except for just laying down on the couch of course.
Fortunately for me this time around, I am starting from experience.
I know what is good for me and how to get my ass back in the grey area (which is actually more rainbow colored). And despite what you thought when you were young, it is actually the things you dread most when you’re feeling down that will help you get back on your feet. Little things such as getting up early in the morning, meditating, going for walks in nature, exercise and cooking hearty food for yourself work wonders and are exactly what you need.
Then who is this voice inside your head, keeping you from getting in an active mindset? If it is not you yourself saying these things to you, then there must be a voice inside us all that sounds exactly like us but it not us at all. I tend to look at this voice now as more of a little demon inside me. Best not to listen of course. Unless you want to be or feel depressed. It is up to you. So maybe our problem is that when we feel down, we are too tired to reject the little voice inside of us. Or maybe the voice inside of us is more present when we’re experiencing negative emotions. Whatever may be the cause, it is our responsibility to deal with it. We are actually the only ones hearing the voices inside our own minds and that makes us the only ones in charge of handling it.
When a friend asked me this week to join her in a woman’s circle, I immediately said yes. I do not believe in coincidences and a get together with friends might have been exactly what I needed. When I saw my friends yesterday I asked them for advise in dealing with my problem. They were very helpful and the answer was quite simple.
“If you want to change the energy around you, change the energy inside you”.
Can it be that simple? Yes, it can. And it is. Sometimes all the little things you do yourself aren’t enough. Sometimes you simply need to hear it from someone else, feel it from another energy perspective. So besides waking up early, exercising every day, meditating and eating hearty food, I just needed some time with friends. I just needed to be out of my comfortable environment, soak up some different energies. Of course I continue with my daily routine to get me out of this state, but I feel that a veil has already lifted. I feel better, more optimistic and ready to handle whatever is coming my way. The message here is that you don’t have to do everything by yourself. Sometimes things get easier with a little insight from other people around you. Sometimes these people say exactly what you need to hear at that moment. So go out, cash some good advice and start your day fresh with new optimism. Find your supportive circle of friends and indulge in happier vibes!
“I get by with a little help from my friends.”
