It is said that whatever you give your attention to grows. If that is the case then life would merely be a lesson in letting go. Can it be that simple? We are constantly feeding our minds, but maybe we need a different approach in order for us to obtain a sense of freedom. Let’s further explore this topic.
Some years ago I stumbled on a set of videos on YouTube from a pastor named Stephen Darby. Even though I am not a religious person his sermons sparked an inner knowing in me. In one of his sermons he speaks about the topic of this blog. He created a funny metaphor that stuck with me until this day. When water falls on a duck, it just glides off. And he advised his listeners to be like the duck. To just let everything glide off. It is an entertaining sermon to say the least and it made me laugh and that might have been the reason why his words kept lingering in my mind. At times I will even be thinking “Be the duck Mickey, the duck don’t give a f*ck!”.
What he meant by this metaphor is that whatever life throws at you, you should make an effort to just let it slide off. I know it can be hard, this too is an ongoing lesson for me without question. And life keeps testing us. When we’re in traffic for instance. Or when we are expecting people to be a certain way or to behave in a certain manner, usually this is followed by disappointment.
People and circumstances rarely show up in the way you would want them to. And because it is unexpected it creates disappointment.
And this disappointment lingers in our minds and creates uncomfortable feelings which we also tend to hold on to. And thus we keep feeding it, keep giving it our energy. And guess what? It grows.
Maybe the problem lies in the fact that we don’t trust ourselves and other people enough. We tend to think we know what’s best for everyone, but we rarely do. And when we are thinking for other people it usually creates stress within our own minds. Because we have zero influence on the actual outcome. Like I said before, we cannot change anyone except ourselves.
Perhaps it is time to start trusting people’s paths and their choices. Looking back at my own life, I have done some crazy things and followed insane thought patterns in my mind. And still I’m here following my life’s purpose. It might have been stupid at times, but apparently I needed these situations to find my way. And the same probably goes for you.
Years later an acquaintance of mine sent me a post on Instagram that touched this same topic but from a completely different angle, the perspective of quantum physics. Where pastor Darby would have most likely gained his insights from religious texts, quantum physics is inspired by science.
Vadim Zeland was born in Russia and he discovered a way of surfing through different realities of which he writes in his book “Reality Transurfing”. The book is about changing your reality according to your order. I have yet to read the book as I only discovered it this morning, but the main message seems to be to lower the importance of your expectations in order to achieve them. Now the lesson seems to head deeper.
So whatever you give your attention to grows, but we need to let go in trust. Without overthinking, without doubts and feelings of scarcity. Vadim says to approach it in another manner: “It would be nice if this happened, but it’s no big deal if it doesn’t”. And looking back at my life this seems so true for me.
Often times I was surprised by the creation of life.
Looking at my life now I have to say it is better than I ever imagined. If that is the case then maybe the universe really has my back.
I never expected to live a life in an equal and loving relationship, surrounded by nature and animals but here I am. Whilst I’m writing this I am literally surrounded by three generations of cats (grandmother, mother and son). If I were to focus on this moment, I would only feel happiness and gratefulness. Up until now I have been able to handle every situation that came my way and everything has always worked out for me. Then why do I dread the future at times? Why do we overthink and feed our future with scarcity?
It is time we move ahead with certainty and trust.
We don’t need to know exactly what is coming. We need to trust that whatever is coming, is needed for our journey.
And thus whatever is heading our way should be welcomed with open arms, either as a blessing or a lesson. And yet again, it brings us back to the ultimate now. The now is a happy place, the now has nothing to do with all your brainfarts. The now just is. The now is here for you, for you to experience gratefulness so you can project more peace.
So whenever doubts or worries fill your mind, be the duck. Trust that the water (your issues) will glide off because the universe has your back. If you don’t trust the universe, be my guest and overthink all you want. All I am saying is that from my own experience I can guarantee that overthinking will not get you where you want to be.
If I were to venture into my mind now I would definitely come across worry and doubts, but if I were to just look around I would feel so blessed – surrounded by my cats and my passion.
Different angle, different outcome.
Release. Have faith. Trust your journey. Let it all glide off and focus on your now. This moment is all we have. Awareness will give you the option to choose where your attention flows. What if we stop feeding our worries and start feeding the infinite field of possibilities by letting go of situations and trusting in the outcome?
“Free your mind, and the rest will follow.”
